Love begets love. First extend genuine love and only then, would love come to you. If you expect and demand to be loved, then you fall from love. You don’t love her more if she is good to you and you don’t love her less if she rejects you. This is not genuine love but indisputable selfishness.
A gift given from the heart does not ask for anything in return. It is the joy of giving and sharing that gives meaning to a box wrapped in ribbons. Or else, it is merely a box wrapped in ribbons with something inside. Then it becomes not a gift but a contractual obligation of “I give you a thing for something in return.” It could be for recognition, a title, a sense of belonging and nothing less than trying to ingratiate into someone’s life for rewards and profits. It is insincere if it makes you feel proud that someone received your gift. It is hideous if you believe that the gift wins favours.
You give a gift because it is a way to show that you care enough; your desired intention to be there for this very special person. It is the same as stopping to help an old lady to cross the street. You be there for her at the time she needs someone. You drop your duty and status as a lawyer, accountant, Muslim, Senator or whatever and let kindness and love take over. You pay your compassion forward, you earnestly give. Something much deeper and ancient fills your entire body; it is in fact a familiar feeling from way down. You were once swimming in love and compassion when you were a child. But duties and social standing as an adult make you forget and uncomfortable to show your sensitivity. This is a gift you can offer to humanity. Make someone feel happy and appreciated.
Acceptance by this person is not a condition, only your genuine love for her is.
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